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Cutting the Cords

There is a simple technique that allows you to cut through any negative or destructive ties you have with another person (or thing) using a modest amount of relaxation and the use of the imagination.

It works on a mind and spirit level to free up your relationships so you can detach when you want to, cut through others’ hold on you or your own emotional ties, and release yourself from the bind. If it’s an ongoing relationship, you will find an improvement next time you meet the other person, before you have done anything. It does not interfere with the positive aspects of a relationship: in fact it is recommended for use by parents in their relationship with their children. We call it ‘cutting the cords’. Here is how you do it:

Take a long deep breath and as you breathe out, let your eyes close. Continue taking slow easy breaths and let go of some of the tension in your body, every time you breathe out.

Now imagine that you’re sitting in a room somewhere where you feel safe and secure, in a sturdy but comfortable chair, and imagine that you draw a circle around you on the floor, so that you are sitting inside the circle. Then draw the light down around you from above, from as high as you believe in, and with light there may come a guardian angel or someone special to help you with this.

Next place a chair opposite you, draw a circle around the chair, separate from your circle, and place the person in the chair.

Imagine that there is a cord of some kind joining the two of you, binding you together. It could be of any substance or material - metal, wood, fibre – any thickness, any colour. See what comes to mind.

Now you are going to need some piece of equipment, a tool or even fire in some form, to cut through this cord. See what comes to mind.

Then take your time and carefully cut your way through the cord.

Next bring the light from above down around both of you and let the two ends of the cord be transmuted, be dissolved in the light, so you’re left sitting opposite each other and separate.

Take your time and, in your own mind, say anything to this person that you want to say right now to express your feelings and have your say about how you see things and what you want.

Now listen and see if this person has anything to say to you, and you are listening to the higher part of them, their spirit, so you may get a different answer from what you would normally, explaining some things to you. Just listen and see.

If you are able, it is helpful if you can now tell them that you forgive them for what they have done to you and ask them to forgive you for anything for which you want forgiveness.

Now let that picture of them fade, so you are left sitting on your own, and draw the light down again from above, and let it shine inside you and fill you with its healing. Let it reach into every cell of your body, every corner of your mind, casting out the shadows, bringing you light and strength and healing.

Then when you are ready, bring yourself up out of it and open your eyes in your own time.

You will probably need to do this a few times to get the best effect. How the cord appears will give you a measure of where you’re at with it.